I've really been wanting to talk about postpartum weight loss and my experience with it and seriously it was so hard to form coherent thoughts about it because I just have SO MUCH I could say on the topic. I mean I can focus on social media expectations, my own experience, my expectations vs reality whew, really I could talk about this forever. Here are some of my thoughts on it.
You are so beautiful! Loosing weight after having a baby is just plain hard! You are right that one needs to not be hard on themselves right after they have had a baby
I did find a large section of social media was very supportive in the postpartum weight-loss journey. Of course I was looking specifically for that and not how to do it fast how to do it best. My sister is one of those seemingly walk out of the hospital with perfect body perfect babies never suffered a setback and I was looking to see what it was like for everyone else. Granted I know find out her journey wasn't as easy as she made it seem, but I think it would be great for everyone to stop putting up the façade of it being easy or being perfect because I think everyone has struggles whether it takes them three weeks or three years. My personal secret was to sign up for mom and baby fitness class. I can't say I enjoyed the classes themselves but I find going to what I call adult high school gym class (with all of the anxiety about finding partners and looking good in your gym clothes) makes me make better choices for the rest of the week. When I come home I have a healthy bowl of yogurt, not ice cream. My daughter may still be afraid of my treadmill making it impossible for me to get a run in, but I try to aim for a walk every day. I had been extremely active before my pregnancy and for a good part of my pregnancy, and I lost a large portion of my muscle mass in the late months of pregnancy and early weeks of motherhood. While the scale says I'm back to where I was when I started, the consistency of my body isn't what it was. And it may never be. But it something that you take one day at a time one step at a time and it's all about teaching my little one healthy choices by example. That's what makes it easier for me to face myself in the mirror every day.
I'm finding the same thing to be true, my muscle mass just isn't what it used to be. But you're right I think the healthy eating is worth it for the babes!
Thank you so much for sharing this video! It is so so so refreshing to see real people with real struggles! Even some style bloggers seem to bounce right back and you're wondering how the heck they did it! You have a beautiful healthy baby and look really really beautiful now!
Thank you Kinsey! It really seems like in most blogs girls just bounce back and I'm left thinking I just got unlucky but I think lots of women struggle with it.
You are amazing!! I currently have a dear little 3 month old (who also struggled with breastfeeding) so I feel you on so many levels! Go you for accomplishing and tweaking your goals! I think that is the most important part of making lifestyle changes - to be realistic. And you did it!! I am just starting to do it too. :)
I have saved this in my Bloglovin feed since I first watched it yesterday or the day before to try to come up with something really thoughtful to respond to it with. But I still have nothing. I have a 10 month old son. He is my fourth baby. I gained 50 pounds with him as I did with my other kids. I have yet to lose the last 15 and I cannot tell you how frustrating it has been for me. I am older this time than I was with my other kids (the others are 14, almost 10 and 7) and so I know that that is a factor. Since having my son, I stopped drinking soda, I cut out sugar almost completely and I hardly ever have processed or fast food. I walk, I bike and for about four months I did Insanity workouts before the sun or my kids even got up. Nothing has seemed to work. I have been disappointed and completely lost with this. I have cried about it endlessly--I just want my body back!!!
I cannot thank you enough for posting this video. You hit on every single thought I have had on this issue. It is nice to know that I am not alone and that I am not the only blogger who doesn't completely bounce back to a size zero just by walking out of the delivery room. You are beautiful and this video means so much. Thanks again.
Frannie that must be so frustrating. I hate the stereotype that if people carry a little extra weight we are lazy. I feel like it's the opposite, we're the ones that often work the hardest to fight our "body type" ugh really sometimes it's just not fair. What's important is that you feel happy and healthy:)
I love this! I have been a silent reader of you blog for some time, and as a mother of a 5 month old I can feel you!!!! Even after losing my baby weight (I know super lucky right) I can still get down on myself because my body is not the same. Thanks for reminding me what a miracle my body has done. I think you are amazing!
It's so true I'm getting closer to my pre baby weight and I'm like "I don't remember me looking like this..." Things totally just...shift..is that even the right word. But more now than ever I realized it's about being happy with ourselves no matter what!
You got a shout-out yesterday on Today.com! http://www.today.com/style/why-covering-cool-inside-fashions-modesty-movement-mormon-style-bloggers-2D80579970
You are so beautiful! Loosing weight after having a baby is just plain hard! You are right that one needs to not be hard on themselves right after they have had a baby
ReplyDeleteIt really is hard! I think being kind to ourselves is a pretty hard lesson to learn.
DeleteI did find a large section of social media was very supportive in the postpartum weight-loss journey. Of course I was looking specifically for that and not how to do it fast how to do it best. My sister is one of those seemingly walk out of the hospital with perfect body perfect babies never suffered a setback and I was looking to see what it was like for everyone else. Granted I know find out her journey wasn't as easy as she made it seem, but I think it would be great for everyone to stop putting up the façade of it being easy or being perfect because I think everyone has struggles whether it takes them three weeks or three years. My personal secret was to sign up for mom and baby fitness class. I can't say I enjoyed the classes themselves but I find going to what I call adult high school gym class (with all of the anxiety about finding partners and looking good in your gym clothes) makes me make better choices for the rest of the week. When I come home I have a healthy bowl of yogurt, not ice cream. My daughter may still be afraid of my treadmill making it impossible for me to get a run in, but I try to aim for a walk every day. I had been extremely active before my pregnancy and for a good part of my pregnancy, and I lost a large portion of my muscle mass in the late months of pregnancy and early weeks of motherhood. While the scale says I'm back to where I was when I started, the consistency of my body isn't what it was. And it may never be. But it something that you take one day at a time one step at a time and it's all about teaching my little one healthy choices by example. That's what makes it easier for me to face myself in the mirror every day.
ReplyDeleteI'm finding the same thing to be true, my muscle mass just isn't what it used to be. But you're right I think the healthy eating is worth it for the babes!
DeleteThank you so much for sharing this video! It is so so so refreshing to see real people with real struggles! Even some style bloggers seem to bounce right back and you're wondering how the heck they did it! You have a beautiful healthy baby and look really really beautiful now!
ReplyDeleteThank you Kinsey! It really seems like in most blogs girls just bounce back and I'm left thinking I just got unlucky but I think lots of women struggle with it.
DeleteThank you for sharing! We all just need to be nicer to ourselves, right? :)
ReplyDeleteYou're absolutely right!
DeleteYou are amazing!! I currently have a dear little 3 month old (who also struggled with breastfeeding) so I feel you on so many levels! Go you for accomplishing and tweaking your goals! I think that is the most important part of making lifestyle changes - to be realistic. And you did it!! I am just starting to do it too. :)
ReplyDeleteAh man breastfeeding issues are just no fun. Best wishes to you and your baby!!
DeleteI friggin' love this video and your wise words! Thanks for the little boost of confidence.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you like it!!
DeleteLove it. And so many perfectly true points you made. Thanks for being so honest. :)
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DeleteI have saved this in my Bloglovin feed since I first watched it yesterday or the day before to try to come up with something really thoughtful to respond to it with. But I still have nothing. I have a 10 month old son. He is my fourth baby. I gained 50 pounds with him as I did with my other kids. I have yet to lose the last 15 and I cannot tell you how frustrating it has been for me. I am older this time than I was with my other kids (the others are 14, almost 10 and 7) and so I know that that is a factor. Since having my son, I stopped drinking soda, I cut out sugar almost completely and I hardly ever have processed or fast food. I walk, I bike and for about four months I did Insanity workouts before the sun or my kids even got up. Nothing has seemed to work. I have been disappointed and completely lost with this. I have cried about it endlessly--I just want my body back!!!
ReplyDeleteI cannot thank you enough for posting this video. You hit on every single thought I have had on this issue. It is nice to know that I am not alone and that I am not the only blogger who doesn't completely bounce back to a size zero just by walking out of the delivery room. You are beautiful and this video means so much. Thanks again.
Frannie that must be so frustrating. I hate the stereotype that if people carry a little extra weight we are lazy. I feel like it's the opposite, we're the ones that often work the hardest to fight our "body type" ugh really sometimes it's just not fair. What's important is that you feel happy and healthy:)
DeleteI love this! I have been a silent reader of you blog for some time, and as a mother of a 5 month old I can feel you!!!! Even after losing my baby weight (I know super lucky right) I can still get down on myself because my body is not the same. Thanks for reminding me what a miracle my body has done. I think you are amazing!
ReplyDeleteIt's so true I'm getting closer to my pre baby weight and I'm like "I don't remember me looking like this..." Things totally just...shift..is that even the right word. But more now than ever I realized it's about being happy with ourselves no matter what!
ReplyDeleteYou got a shout-out yesterday on Today.com! http://www.today.com/style/why-covering-cool-inside-fashions-modesty-movement-mormon-style-bloggers-2D80579970
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